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3 ways to enable your child love a new home

When your child has to move into two homes, it becomes a matter of buying the items he or she needs. One thing that you should remember is that it's hard for a child to move into two homes and to not have the consistency he or she once had.

Making your child comfortable in two homes is about more than just having the basics. Here are a few tips for helping your child adjust after divorce.

The right custody plan matters for your child

There are several kinds of child custody parents can seek when they're separated or going through divorce. Starting with the most basic is physical custody. Physical custody is what you think of when you think about seeking custody. It's physically having your child with you. Parents can share physical custody, or one parent can seek primary or sole physical custody.

Joint custody, or shared custody, means that both parents spend time with their child. In many instances, courts aim to have each parent spend a similar amount of time with the child. With sole physical custody, a parent may have complete custody of a child without the other parent being active in the child's life. With primary custody, the other parent may have visitation rights during a portion of the week or on another schedule.

Adoption and divorce: You can help your child get through it

Adopting your child was the most important decision you and your spouse made together. Unfortunately, now that your marriage is ending, you're not sure how to address your child's needs. You know that your child already lost his parents once, so imagining putting him through that again is heartbreaking.

Being adopted and then going through a divorce does add a layer of complications to a child's relationship with his parents. Adoption issues are difficult on their own, but combined with the loss of a divorce, children may act out or feel they're abandoned by the people who said they wanted them so badly.

It's your right to pursue child support if it's not being paid

When your spouse left, you were awarded child support. Over time, the checks have stopped coming, but since you make enough money, you haven't made a big deal out of not receiving what you're owed.

Other people tell you that it's important to let the courts know. Why? Does it really matter as long as your child is cared for?

You can get through divorce with these 3 tips

Divorce is heartbreaking for more than one reason. It's the end of a relationship, and it can mean losing loved ones other than your spouse, too. Relationships you have with their family members and friends may come to an end, making the divorce particularly difficult.

There is no cure for the feelings you have, but time does help you heal. Here are a few other things you can do to help yourself get over the grief of a divorce.

Man owes over $100,000 in child support payments

When you have to fight for child support from an ex for several years, the amount he or she owes adds up. Add interest to the amount along with fees, and it is easy to see how hard it would be for someone to make those payments. Despite that, it's their responsibility to do so, and failing to pay isn't an option.

In a case from New York that dates back to 1992, one mother is still fighting for her children's right to child support. She claims she raised her two children all while seeking child support from their father, who would send as little as $3 a month. He was ordered to pay $141 a week.

Custodial fathers have a right to child support, too

If you're a father who has obtained primary custody, you might be concerned about child support. Your child's mother is supposed to pay, but you're not sure she'll do so. You feel it's your obligation to take care of your child, and you already work and support him or her without any need for additional money. Should you still seek support if your child's mother doesn't pay?

The simple and short answer is "yes." Even if your child's mother doesn't pay, it's her obligation to do so. Around 18.3 percent of primary custodians were children's fathers in 2011, so you're not the only person who may be asking if a mother not paying support is normal. At the end of the day, if your child's mother is ordered to pay, that's what she should do.

Living alone is more common for Americans today than ever before

Americans are at a risk of dying alone, according to a news statement on Oct. 9, because they are more likely to live alone and not have families than in the past. Strong social relationships are necessary to boost a person's life span. In fact, a strong social circle improves a person's chance of staying alive by an amazing 50 percent. That's similar to the boost in a person's chance of surviving longer that results from quitting smoking.

While there is no single reason why American people seem lonelier now than before, it could come down to being more independent. Almost half of all adults in the United States are single, and many others are waiting to get married. Some people have smaller families, and around 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. All these factors lead to people being more independent and, sadly, lonely.

How to know when a parenting evaluation is biased

When it's time for your custody case to go to court, the last thing you need is bias working against you. Bias and inaccurate parenting evaluations could mean that you end up with less time with your child or that you lose custody completely. It's not fair, and it shouldn't be legal.

What can you do if you feel that you've a victim of bias during divorce? You can start by reaching out as soon as you think there are signs of bias. Here are a few to look for:

  • The evaluation focuses on one parent

What is the importance of child support?

When you were ordered to pay child support, your first question may have been, "why?" You intend to be in your child's life around half the time, and you will pay for things he or she needs, like clothing, school activity funds and other needs. What difference would it make if you didn't pay child support? Why do you need to pay child support if you can't even guarantee that the funds go to your child?

You're right to be wondering why you have to pay child support of a certain amount each month. The truth is that states have a child support system to guarantee that children have access to funds from both parents. Child support payments provide balance between parents and make sure each parent is supporting the child fairly.